The Decoder

Put it under the microscope.

Pattern analysis, not diagnosis. I name what I see in the text.

Decoder

Paste a conversation below and I'll name the patterns I see — gaslighting, DARVO, guilt-tripping, moving goalposts, and so on. I analyze the text, not the person. Ask follow-ups anytime.

If this involves violence, threats, weapons, strangulation, stalking, or forced sex — prioritize safety. Call 911, the DV Hotline 800-799-7233, or text START to 88788.
Not stored. Analyzed for patterns, not people. Enter to send · Shift+Enter for a new line